Feeling Not-So-Positive?

As a therapist, it is essential for me to be adaptable and to possess the ability to "read the room," so to speak. This concept goes beyond merely observing the physical environment; it involves tuning into the emotional and psychological atmosphere of the therapy session. Each client presents a unique set of circumstances, emotions, and histories that require a nuanced understanding and approach. Every therapeutic intervention I employ may initially seem effective; however, there inevitably comes a moment when a particular strategy may lose its efficacy. At that juncture, it becomes crucial for me to listen attentively to the client, prioritizing their feelings and insights over my preconceived notions of what might be deemed "right" or "wrong."

The effectiveness of any intervention is ultimately determined by the patient’s reaction. It is not the therapist who holds the power to dictate the success of a method; rather, it is the client’s experience and feedback that guide our therapeutic journey. I often find myself asking critical questions: Did this intervention truly benefit the patient? Did it resonate with their current emotional state, or did it fall flat? If the answer indicates that the intervention was not beneficial, I take a step back to evaluate the patient’s response in detail. This assessment is not merely an academic exercise; it is an empathetic endeavor aimed at understanding the client’s current needs, emotions, and challenges.

Once I have gained insight into the client’s reaction, I am then equipped to try another intervention. This iterative process is vital, as it allows us to explore various strategies until we find one that facilitates genuine progress. The therapeutic relationship is a collaborative effort, and my role is to guide the client through their journey while remaining flexible and responsive to their evolving needs.

Additionally, I strive to use interventions that I can genuinely endorse and apply in my own life. This principle is rooted in my commitment to authenticity and integrity within the therapeutic relationship. I recognize that to avoid hypocrisy, it is essential for me to engage with the same techniques I recommend to my clients. This not only enhances my credibility but also fosters a deeper connection with the client, as they can see that I am not merely prescribing methods from a distance but am also willing to embrace these strategies for personal growth and development.

In summary, the therapeutic process is dynamic and requires a high degree of adaptability and sensitivity. By actively listening to my clients and being open to modifying my approach based on their feedback, I can create a more effective and supportive therapeutic environment. This commitment to understanding and responding to the unique needs of each client is what ultimately drives the success of our work together.

But what aids us in daily life? What happens when you don't require day treatment or therapy twice a week? How do we manage when everyday life becomes challenging? What about the prevalent belief, "I can't do this"? Whatever "this" may be; "I can't do that, or I'm not smart enough, confident enough, or lovable enough." First of all, feel your feelings. Experience life, all of life. The poet Keats referred to “negative capability”, the capacity to tolerate the unknown, and dwell in it. Allow our feelings and experience to bring up the not yet known. Strength to face adversity comes from embracing, experiencing, and feeling.

Identify thought distortions. Our minds can lead us to believe things that aren't actually true. These incorrect thoughts support negative thinking. By recognizing that the thought is not true, you can learn to question those thoughts.

Confront negative thoughts. Consider how you would react if a friend, partner, or child talked about themselves in such a manner. You would likely provide a strong counter to their negative perspective. Treat yourself with the same compassion; you are worthy of it. Release judgement. Constantly comparing ourselves to other people contributes to dissatisfaction. Theodore Roosevelt said “Comparison is the thief of joy”. If we compare ourselves to others we may be left with feelings of inferiority.

Engage in gratitude. Studies indicate that experiencing gratitude significantly influences your positivity and happiness. Observing the things that are going well and bring you joy enhances their strength and importance, making them more prominent.

Finally, I appreciate Mantras. "I will keep learning and growing." "I deserve happiness and success." "Mistakes are stepping stones to success." These phrases assist me in overcoming negative self-talk. "Now, I will stand with my feet firmly on the ground, ready to learn." Mantras seem like an initial step to take. Discover your first step.